Jacob Lee ‘Jake’ Messmer
On Wednesday, December 15, 2021, Jacob Lee ‘Jake’ Messmer, loving husband, father of five, and grandfather of seven, passed away at the age of 64.
Jake was born on February 10, 1957, in St Louis, MO to Jacob Adam & Hattie (Britt) Messmer. He retired in 2017 after being a long-time employee of Aramark. Through his time at Aramark, he loved building relationships with his clients. On May 6, 2017, he married Nadine (Frericks) O’Brien.
Jake had a passion for family, community and relationships. Jake was a beloved community member of St. Anthony Catholic Church. He was also a member of the Knights of Columbus. Those that were close to him know his affection for his grandchildren and his exuberance when playing with them. A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, Jake developed a love for anything Star Wars, which he discussed with fellow fans any chance he could. He also enjoyed fine arts; he spent hours working at his art station crafting challenging mazes for others to complete. Jake used everything he was passionate about as a way to include others: family, church, movies, video games, art, and more was his way to love, include, and care for his people.
“When gone am I, the last of the Jedi will you be. The Force runs strong in your family. Pass on what you have learned.” – Yoda.
Jake was preceded in death by his father, Jacob Adam Messmer.
He is survived by his wife Nadine, mother Hattie, sister Joyce, brother David, sister-in-law Shannon, his children: Jacob Conrad ‘Jake’ Messmer, Sydney (Allen) Banks, Amanda (Jerry) Menke, Katie O’Brien and Nick O’Brien, and his grandchildren: Cara Koch Stathem and Ethan Messmer, Makinze, Tatum, and Zekaius Menke, Nadia O’Brien, and Baby Banks expected in February. Numerous nieces, nephews, cousins and other relatives also survive.
A mass of Christian Burial will be held on Tuesday, December 21, 2021, at St. Anthony Catholic Church at 12:30 PM. Interment in St. Anthony Cemetery. Visitation will be held on Monday, December 20, 2021, at St. Anthony Catholic Church from 4:00 until 7:00 PM. Memorials may be made to St. Anthony Catholic Church or to Children’s Cancer Research Fund. The Duker & Haugh Funeral Home is in charge of the arrangements.
You were the greatest dad! I love you! I’ll miss you! Love you beyond this galaxy! You meant a lot! May force be with you!
So sad to hear of the passing of Jake. Wonderful man, great co-worker, and just a good person to all. Prayers for all who loved him.
Tom and I enjoyed our double date nights out with the Messmers. Jake had such a dry humor. He and Tom got along just perfectly. We didn’t get enough time to enjoy Jake’s company here on earth. We will see you someday in heaven. Rest in peace, Jake. You will be missed.
My heart breaks for you Nadine. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
So very sorry for your families loss. You will all be in my prayers.
Nadine, I am so sorry to hear of Jake’s passing. Keeping you in my prayers.
So sorry, you are in our prayers.
Nadine, my heart just broke for you all. Had the honor of working with Jake for 12 yrs. He will be greatly missed.
I am so sorry for the loss of this man! He was one of the most caring individuals I have ever met! He loved his customers and co workers with ever thing he had. I had the pleasure to work with Jake for 10 years and so glad I got to met this man and get to know him. I can still remember the day he told me about Nadine and the excitement in his voice. He was an amazing man! Rest In Peace my Jedi!
My condolences to the family and friends .
Conrad , Nadine and family, We are so very sorry for your loss. Jake was a great guy and a friend to all. Our prayers are with you all .
Nadine… I’m so sorry to hear of Jake’s passing. I worked with Jake for 20 yrs and was the best. The best thing that ever happened to Jake was when he met you. You made him the happiest man. He loved you so. He was a good man and a great friend!
Nadine & Family
I am very sorry for your loss.
Eternal Rest Jacob.
Chaplain Mark
Blessing Hospital
Jake was a steadfast, loving father, grandfather who exhibited kindness to all. My prayers are with Nadine, his children and all the family.
Nadine, We are so saddened for you loss. Our prayers are with you and Jakes family.